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Physical abuse counselling
This is not your fault. You are not to blame. You are not responsible for others’ actions.
Physical abuse is a traumatic experience. I offer physical abuse counselling in a safe space where you can learn to overcome the trauma and heal.
Physical abuse is an intentional act of aggression, intimidation and violence towards a child and adult, causing injury, risk of injury or trauma. Hitting, beating and rough treatment are all considered physical abuse. This may include bruises, scratches, burns, broken bones, lacerations and/or loss of consciousness.
Physical signs of abuse can often be seen, but sometimes the abuser will intentionally cause harm where clothing may hide the injuries. The impact that an injury has on your body can change your entire view of yourself. Other physical traumas may be concussions, head injuries, joint pain and more. Injuries that go unnoticed can have a profound impact on the victim and should not be diminished in any way because they are not obvious to others.
Professional support is essential
Seeking professional support is essential for helping victims of physical abuse to overcome psychological difficulties that can stem from their traumatic experiences. In many cases, physical abuse can lead to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, anger and other challenges such as sexual issues and trouble trusting new people.
Physical Abuse Counselling
Counselling can help in several ways, providing a supportive and safe environment where victims of physical abuse can start to explore painful memories and traumatic events in order to understand and change how they are affecting them in the present.
What is domestic violence?
If you are afraid of your partner, even if you have not been physically abused, but they have threatened to harm you or intimidate you, you are in an abusive relationship.
Do you avoid certain topics of conversation because you’re afraid of how your partner may react? Are you afraid of making your partner angry? Do you feel that there is very little you can do right to please your partner, and are constantly walking on eggshells? Do you believe that you have made your partner mad and deserve to be treated badly? Do you feel numb? Are you isolated and withdrawn from your friends and family? Do you often experience chronic headaches, fatigue, stomach pains, low mood and feelings of hopelessness?
If you have answered ‘yes’ to a few of the above questions, you may be experiencing domestic violence. Domestic violence is violent or aggressive behaviour within the home that usually involves the physical and emotional abuse of a spouse or partner.
How does physical abuse affect people?
Physical abuse is an overwhelming experience to go through. Trauma in the body occurs when our natural instinct for survival kicks in. This means that any time we feel threatened or in danger, our body summons up a tremendous amount of energy to either fight the situation or flee from the situation. This energy triggers shock and the mind and body disconnect from what’s happening, while the body is being harmed. These feelings of shock and disconnection stay with you for a long time after. Once the violent relationship has ended it may take some time for the body’s response to stop reacting in this way.
Physical abuse significantly impacts your perspective of the world and how you interact and function in it. Physical abuse affects your thoughts, feelings, behaviors and also impacts on your mental stability. Increased anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder and depression are all symptoms that are common in people who experience this type of abuse.
Some common physical effects of physical abuse are; chronic fatigue, shortness of breath, muscle tension, involuntary shaking, changes in eating and sleeping patterns, sexual dysfunction, issues with women’s menstrual cycles or fertility. Self-medicating with alcohol or substances can become a coping mechanism. Self-harm may be another way that the survivor may try to bring control back into an ‘out-of-control’ life.
Being controlled by another through physical abuse, can create feelings of hopelessness. You may form negative views of the world and about yourself – feeling that you are unworthy of a better life. Self-esteem deterioration goes hand in hand with ongoing physical abuse, which can lead to a false belief system that you are alone in the world and that you are always unsafe. Isolating yourself from those who love you and mistrusting friends and family are direct results of being in a physically abusive relationship or situation.
What you can do to protect yourself?
Coping with the effects of physical abuse and domestic violence can be devastating because the victims control over the situation has been taken away from them.
Keeping yourself safe, while you are in a physically abusive relationship, is of utmost importance:
Stay away from places in the home that pose more of a danger to you. Don’t allow yourself to become trapped in small spaces or rooms. Move near to a room with a window or door that you can get out of, should you need to. Avoid rooms where there are dangerous objects ie. the kitchen – knives. If you can find a room that locks from the inside, you will be able to lock your abuser out.
If you are in a dangerous situation, you may need to consider giving your abuser whatever they are asking for in order to keep yourself safe. You have a right to protect yourself so if that means you need to act in the best interest of your well-being, there is nothing to be ashamed of.
Always have access to a phone and keep it on you at all times. Know your emergency numbers that you can dial out for free from almost anywhere. Call for help as soon as you are able to.
Remove yourself from the situation as soon as you can. Go to your neighbor’s house or go out in public where there are other people, to diminish any chances of a scene. Contact friends or family who will be able to protect you until you can get a ‘protection order’ or ‘restraining order’ in place.
What you can do to help others who have experienced physical abuse?
Very often victims of physical abuse try to hide what is happening from their family and friends. If you have become aware of signs of physical abuse and suspect that a loved one is being abused, speaking frankly with them about this may not get the results you are hoping for. The abuser has spent much time programming them into believing there is nothing wrong with how their relationship functions. By you telling them what you’ve noticed and then telling them what to do to get out of their situation, you will most likely isolate them even further. It is crucial to allow our loved ones to make their own decisions and determine their next steps so as to empower them and allow them to feel in control of their life.
For your loved one to find the courage to leave their abuser, they need knowledge, confidence and a belief of their truth. This is where you come in – remind them of times where they did have power in their life. Help them to see the positive decisions they make daily and build their confidence. Create a safe space where they can speak openly. Do not try to get them to see things from your perspective, rather tell them your worries and what you have noticed. Remind them that they do not deserve to be treated like this and they are not to blame for what’s happened. Be a non-judgmental sounding board for them. Support your loved one through the long haul, as it can be a lengthy and trying process for all involved.
How I can help?
As complex and as damaging as physical abuse is, it is possible to overcome. This often requires coming to terms with hard truths about your reality. It also means having the opportunity to discover new inner strengths in a protected and safe space. Through your journey of healing, learning to develop positive coping mechanisms and learning to lovingly care for yourself, it is possible to rebuild positive relationships with yourself and with others. Wherever you are in your own journey, there is always opportunity to be empowered, become insightful and be brave. When you are ready to enter this space, call me, and watch your greatest self unravel into the strength YOU choose to become.
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So many people get lost in their experiences, especially the challenging ones. You forget what it’s like to feel free from the burden of a shocking incident and without even realizing, you become the experience, every minute of every day. How deeply rooted you are in this cycle can be difficult to see from the inside, because you are in it. It takes someone from the outside to gently guide you out and show you, remind you of what emotional freedom really feels like.
Everyone deserves to feel free. Everyone deserves the opportunity to step into the light. Allow me to guide you to the shining light.
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TRANSFORM every area of your life into vibrant success.
REVIVE and awaken yourself from the haze of shock and the aftermath of your ordeal.
ACCEPT what has happened to you and take strength from your situation.
UNDERSTAND who you now are because life has changed you.
METHODICALLY move beyond the limitations that you’ve been creating as a way to survive.
ACHIEVE the best version of you by rising above the superficiality of your experience, owning the depth of your wisdom and the freedom that is yours to have.
Book a free introductory call and learn how I can help you transform your life.
On our journey together you'll
TRANSFORM every area of your life into vibrant success. REVIVE and awaken yourself from the haze of shock and the aftermath of your ordeal. ACCEPT what has happened to you and take strength from your situation. UNDERSTAND who you now are because life has changed you. METHODICALLY move beyond the limitations that you’ve been creating as a way to survive. ACHIEVE the best version of you by rising above the superficiality of your experience, owning the depth of your wisdom and the freedom that is yours to have.
Book a free introductory call and learn how I can help you transform your life.
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I’m Gaelene, a qualified social worker with practices in JHB and Durban, I specialise in creating a safe space for people who feel lost and paralysed by their experiences. A space where people feel accepted and supported through their journey whilst reclaiming the greatest version of themselves.
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